The Kama Blog
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Mind & Body
7 questions about where you are in your intimate life
Seven questions to meet yourself where you are. These are the questions we ask in the Kama quiz. There is no right answer.
Pleasure & Orgasm
Anal Pleasure, Without Pain: Relaxation, Consent, and the In & Out Technique
Anal sex should not be painful, not even a little. With relaxation, arousal, consent, and the In and Out technique, the anus is one of the most pleasurable places on the body.
Relationships
How can I build intimacy outside of sex?
The way we relate to our sexual experiences is based on the quality of the intimacy. Intimacy is what happens before penetration.
Your Practice
How Can I Last Longer in Bed and Feel More?
The way we self pleasure conditions the way we have sex. If we want to last longer in bed, there are some exercises such as edging, and resensitisation that are effective to delay ejaculation and for harder erections.
Mind & Body
How do I learn to feel more in my body?
So much of our life is conditioned by external validation. The resources for wellbeing and pleasure come from living in our bodies, and less in our heads.
Mind & Body
How to Be More Present During Intimacy
Because of the constant mental stimulation we experience in everyday life, having ways to come back to the body is essential. Here is how to build that.
Relationships
How to bring desire back
When one partner stops wanting sex, it is rarely about desire disappearing. It is about what has built up in the space between you, and what happens when you remove the pressure.
Your Practice
What Is My Pelvic Floor and Why Does It Matter for Pleasure?
Your pelvic floor is your sex muscle. Here is how to use it, not just strengthen it.
Your Practice
What Type of Breathing Is Good for Sex and Pleasure?
Breath is the number one tool for pleasure, yet we often hold our breath as soon as something good is happening. Explore new ways to breathe during sex that can expand orgasms, help you last longer, and feel more sensations.
Relationships
When You and Your Partner Have Different Sex Drives
Mismatched arousal is common in long-term relationships. It is a sign that something needs to shift in the intimacy. Here is how to talk about it, and how to change the way you approach sex.
Pleasure & Orgasm
Why Can't I Orgasm With My Partner?
Orgasm with a partner starts with knowing your own body. Here is what solo practice actually builds, and why that knowledge is what you bring into the room.
Science & Method
Why Five Minutes of Daily Pleasure Practice Changes Your Brain
A pleasure pathway is a neural pathway. Here is what daily practice is actually building, and why frequency matters more than duration.
Pleasure & Orgasm
Why Is Female Desire So Misunderstood?
Female desire has never been properly taught. The anatomy is larger than the map, the potential is unparalleled, and none of it has been explained to us.