During sex, the attention can go in many directions. The experience happens when we are present. As soon as you are thinking of the orgasm, you are not here anymore.

Here are some places attention tends to land. Read through, and notice which one feels most familiar to you.

  1. On my partner's pleasure
  2. I get performance anxiety
  3. I focus on sensations
  4. I get stuck in my head
  5. Erotic thoughts and fantasies
  6. I stay curious and explore
  7. I feel pressure to follow a script
  8. I am fully present with my partner

Following our internal pleasure is one of the best tools to stay out of your head.